Been married for almost 10 years and without kids. We do not have many common interests and are almost opposites.
Since marriage, I have been going through multiple operations. The aftermath of nursing my body was the unfortunate weight gain. I’ve tried many ways but it’s so hard to lose weight. Hubby often accuses me of being “greedy” and hence the weight gain. He doesn’t show much care after my operations, as he feels that I will be fine and it’s not the first time.
On the outside, my hubby often likes to portray himself as a loving hubby. But whenever it’s just the 2 of us, he will not be bothered with me. More often than not, he likes to put me down. I have always been making more than him yet I have tried my best to ensure he doesn’t feel bad about that.
When we quarrel, he will always storm away and not speak to me for weeks.
He will tell me not to mix with my friends, because they are always “bragging” about what their husbands or bfs have bought for them. From the day we got married till now, I have never made a ruckus for him to buy me any gift. Instead, I’ve been the only one buying gifts in our relationship.
Recently, we signed up for a workout activity together and I will always be the one asking him if he will be going, so that we can go together. However, if I don’t ask, he will not be bothered to ask me, or will retort by saying I should know his schedule.
Whenever I bring up the topic of counselling, I will suffer more backlash from him. I’m feeling pretty tired by now and am toying with thoughts of a divorce as I feel we are not getting anywhere.
Should I just move on, or what should I do?