My fiancé (F 28) has admitted she isn’t attracted anymore to me (M 28) and is only with me for my family and assets
Partner isn’t attracted to me and admits they currently just want access to my family and assets
Hi all, really in need of advice. Me (M, 28) and my fiancé (F, 28) have been together for 5 1/2 years and engaged for half a year. I have stood by her through the most difficult times of her life, gave her a place in my family when her’s pushed her away and stood by her as anger issues welled to the surface.
I persuaded her to try counseling and a psychologist and she’s had such fantastic improvement. She is the complete love of my life and I have sacrificed so much for her with no regret. It’s not been easy but then again, when is love?
To cut to the chase, in the last two months she has become increasingly distant, opting to go out with her friends until 3am, has been messaging a guy she met in work long messages ending in rows of kisses and has rejected any attempts to be intimate.
I have listed and pushed to spend more time with her and I’m met with no’s at each junction. I confronted her about a week ago and on pushing and ultimately telling her how low, alone I feel, she has admitted that she is no longer attracted to me and doesn’t feel that ‘spark’ anymore.
However, she doesn’t want to leave me because of everything I offer, my family, my car, the house myself and my father are renovating for us to live in, etc. She claims she still loves me but honestly, I just feel worthless and broken. I feel used in that she is essentially dragging me along while figuring out what she wants from me to make this work.
I love her to pieces but my self confidence is shattered. I’m not sure if I even trust that she still loves me and that she isn’t at least emotionally cheating on me with this ‘friend’ she messages.
I’ve attempted to do all I can to compliment her, ask her to do things with me, look after her etc but she just always finds fault / disregards my effort completely. It feels like I’m trying to save our relationship and she just doesn’t care.
Is there anything I can even do at this point? I feel miserable and broken but I love her and I just can’t throw away the possibility of our future together. If we did break up, she would lose her home (in my name), my family, our friends…and me, though she completed disregards me as mentioned. I want to save our relationship but how do I stop getting taken for a ride?