When a girl says that the guy has to earn similar or more than her, it is such a turn off.
These are the kind of girls who would leave you when things get tough for you, or when you fail to meet her financial expectation of you, or if you decide that you find more fulfilment in a job that pays lesser than the one you had before (where instead of being happy for you, she leaves because you now earn less).
Never mind the fact that you are loyal and loving to her, but because she already values you with a significant weightage based off what you can offer financially, why would she care?
I’m not stingy and would also want to spoil my future partner too, but I also do not want to be with a girl who is with me because of my earning power, or my potential earning power. This is not just a gold-digger thing, it applies to women who are “not gold-diggers”, but have these kind of “he has to be willing to pay more”, “he has to earn more than me” kind of mentality. It is not like women cannot earn money for themselves, so why the need for this kind of mentality? Why do you feel entitled to his money?
If a guy earns $100 a month because he is irresponsible and does not want to work much, then sure, that is valid, and is also unattractive to guys when girls are like that. But if he’s an upright man who is responsible and works for an honest living, treats you well and has good values, but yet you want to leave him because he earns less than what you personally want from a man, then you’re a huge red flag. Guy should avoid you.
And things like “he may earn less than me now but he must be driven and ambitious, so next time he can earn more to hit my expectations”, are also red flags. Are you with him because you like him for who he is, or are you with him under the condition that he has to earn more in future?
Money is important, but how much do you value money over the value of the person that you are with that you claim to love and care for? Do you stick through thick and thin, or do you lack loyalty and would leave him for someone who earns more?
Same for guys, if a guy says the girl has to earn similar or more than him and stuff like that in order for him to stay with her, it is also a red flag. No double standards here.