So my husband and I are both in our early 30’s. The moment he gets home, he starts talking about his day.
He’s a surgeon and he starts to talk about his surgery in details and it’s pretty technical. I’m here trying to destress from my day and deal with our one year old boy and he just basically describes his entire day in detail.
It sounds like “Then I opened the right arm, harvested the radial flap by myself, and the nerves were hard to identify so that took an extra 30 minutes there, then i had to suture the vessels under the microscope and it kept fogging up…” (Except in even more detail).
I got annoyed and I told him I don’t really want to listen to his medical cases and it stresses me out because then I feel like I’m back at work.
When I’m done with work, I want to be done with work and not feel like I’m in the OR still. I have told him this multiple times before. He continues to do it.
So about once a week, he forgets and will go on and on about his surgery for 30+ min until I get fed up and I tell him to stop talking about surgery. (He recaps daily but usually under 30 min, but once a week he decided to recite his “surgical textbook”)
After this argument, he says he doesn’t feel supported and feels like he can’t talk to me. I feel like an AH as well because I don’t have the mental capacity to listen to him recap his entire day in detail without being mentally draining on me.
I feel like a horrible person but I don’t know if this is normal or if I’m just being an AH.