So I went on a few dates with a guy and eventually we slept together and he stayed the night. He spent the next morning talking and complaining about a previous ex that broke up with him three years ago and also went did a lot of trauma dumping.
So I kind of knew this guy was not really for me and I assume he felt the same, because he said something along those lines.
So a few days later I just text him and just reassured that I don’t want a relationship but if he ever needs someone to talk to, he can message me
(I was thinking of all of the things he was talking about and he seemed so stressed and i was genuinely just offering a sympathetic ear, I do empathize with people easily)
He responds with. “Yeah I don’t want to sleep with you. I don’t find you physically attractive, you were cute clothes on and having lights off helped, but I struggled even getting hard.”
I feel like this is probably the meanest thing he could have said to any women.
I do understand that he was just probably being dead honest. And I understand that he was probably just being dead honest.
I exercise and eat healthy and most men comment that I have a nice body.
But I honestly don’t know how to feel better about this.
Netizens’ comments
- Once you rejected him, there was absolutely no reason for him to give you a report card on you. It doesn’t sound to me like he’s being honest, it sounds like he was trying to say something hurtful on purpose.
- people who describe themselves as ‘brutally honest’ often care more about being brutal than honest. You can be honest and compassionate at the same time. no one forces you to be mean that’s a choice.
- Ummm he was trying to hurt you because you hurt him by not wanting to continue on. The drama dump over an ex 3 years prior???? Guy has issues with women rejecting him. This is so common. He is a pathetic sad man. Please do not give it any credence. Block him and move on.
- He was not being honest. His ego was wounded by rejection and bitter toward women so he was mean to you as a way of getting revenge.