I’ve slept with people I don’t even find attractive and idk why
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I’m an attractive female and have had guy friends in the past who I wanted to be friends with encourage me to sleep with them and I did, because I’m too nice to say no or too scared to.
There’s been times where we’d be hanging out alone, and they’d touch me and I’d just go along with it instead of telling them to stop.
Looking back I can’t believe I’ve slept with some of these guys and I’m just like wtf why did I let myself do that 🙁 idk if any other girls have had this issue
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- Yup. I felt so awful for making people feel rejected that i would not say no.
Took therapy to realize why and actually break out of this pattern - Forget the part about doing it with unattractive people; you shouldn’t feel the need to say yes to everyone. It sounds like (at least to me) that you don’t really want to sleep with these people but they start touching you and you are too scared to deny them.
You may want to talk to someone about this and set some hard boundaries. You seem like a nice girl getting taken advantage of because of your kindness. - I’m a guy and was exactly the same. Just couldn’t say no and basically went along with it. I ended up in relationships with girls that I really wasn’t interested in. For me, it’s a mixture of being a people pleaser and childhood abandonment issues.
- Yeah. Recently found out I have adhd which I think had a lot to do with it. People pleasing wanting to be liked low self esteem etc. Hope things get better for you you aren’t your past xx
- I can tell you from personal experience it’s because you’re most likely a people pleaser. The most common symptom is not being able to say no. They’re disgusting for not asking first before putting their hands on you. Even more disgusting for only being your friend to sleep with you.