Asked out a woman and she looked horrified while rejecting me.
I’ve had confidence issues due to being really overweight and I’ve had weight issues where I would bounce between skinny and fat over a few months.
I finally got it under control where I’m a healthy weight, bigger than I’d like but not anorexic anymore, which is good.
I went and got my long straggly bad hair cut short, shorter than I’d like but hey ho.
I don’t know this woman, but I’ve seen her in the same places I’d go, I’ve made a few jokes here and there she’s laughed at when we’d talk briefly.
This morning I went up to her, smiled, and just asked for her number, thinking that yeah worst that happens is she says No, been rejected a million times before, no big deal.
But her reaction. Her eyes widened, she put like her left hand up to like block herself almost, she was acting like I was gonna explode and attack her. When I simply said “yeah all good, just thought I’d ask” with a smile she immediately exhaled and got more relaxed and I just walked away.
I know I’m ugly, but that reaction just. It’s like I’m this evil hideous monster, like Frankenstein walking up to a villager for the first time. I’ve been insulted while rejected before and it’s whatever. But this was honestly like she was afraid.
Just destroyed my self confidence all over again.
Netizens’ comments
- Just something I’ve thought about over the years, that applies to anyone of any gender: I think if you’re the one approaching a stranger wanting to get to know them more, you should offer them your number not ask for theirs.
- That way they don’t need to make a split second decision to give away a piece of personal information without getting time to think on it, and generally if you’re going up to them first you’re already taking the risk of rejection.
- This is less about you specifically and more about previous experiences she’s had.
Rejection absolutely sucks so I feel for you but that fear you saw in her was her past, not you. - Don’t take it too personally. Her reaction to me sounds like she’s had some bad experiences in the past by men not taking no for an answer.
- This was definitely not about you and more that she likely had problems with men not taking “no” for an answer.
- Good to get it off your chest. She was reacting to the spectre of every interaction she’s ever had, not you specifically. Hard to keep that in mind but it’s true