I would never tell my children or husband this but becoming a mother is my biggest regret in life.
I’m 38 and I have three children at 12, 10 and 8 and while I of course love them dearly I do secretly regret having children. 12 years ago my life stopped.
My career ended and I essentially became a full nanny, a chef and a maid for free for little humans I carried in my body for 9 months who talk back to me, make my life difficult and honestly don’t really like me.
My husband’s and my activities in the bedroom also died. We F maybe once every couple of months because he’s always at work and is usually very tired or just not in the mood.
Childbirth also ruined my body. I have stretch marks all over my body, two c-section scars, loose skin and weirdly colored nips that still get milky and gross every once in awhile.
I also have a scar from when I split open all the way to my a-hole with my first born. I have virtually no bladder control after spending a combined total of 27 months pregnant in my life now either.
I literally have to wear panty liners all the time because sometimes a little bit of pee just comes out on it’s on. Honestly being pregnant and childbirth is easily the worst thing that’s ever happened to me.
After the 3rd time I made my husband get a vasectomy. I told him I cannot do this again and thankfully he understood.
I did it all for 3 children who honestly don’t like me very much at all either. They constantly talk back, tell me I’m a terrible mother, tell me they hate me or won’t listen to what I’m asking them to do.
I’ve tried to be a good mother and I still try because I know firsthand what it’s like to have a bad one. I try to take good care of the house, kids and my husband but the last 12 years have been the worst of my life and I have another 10+ to go assuming I make it that far and that my children will actually leave the home.
By then I’ll be almost 50 and my husband will be over 50 and then what? Will we actually have a life again over 20 years after they ended?
Will we somehow manage to have a passionate intimate life again in our 50s? I doubt it.
But yep that’s my confession. I deeply regret having children and believe it ruined my life and extinguished the passion and romance in my marriage.