My boyfriend threw a tantrum when I couldn’t finish in bed.
(For context, him and I have been together for almost 6 years) My bf (21) and I (19f) were about to f in bed. I teased him all morning because I had freshly shaved the night before and I know he loves when i am all smooth and soft. He told me to go shower and we would get down to it.
I come out of the shower, he goes to the bedroom and we start kissing on the bed. He takes off his pants, I take off my hoodie and we make out like that for about 5 minutes while I rub him through his underwear.
He knows I love rubbing myself down there so he flips me on my back and starts rubbing it.
I was sort of nervous because I know for a fact I was not wet enough. Anyway. He starts rubbing me but not the way I like it at all.
He’s rubbing it all over the place, almost like a dj and as soon as I start moaning louder, he starts rubbing super hard.
I’m obviously not wet enough. He sees it doesn’t work so he starts using his mouth on my bewbs. We’re getting there. I like it, but everytime I like it, he rubs faster and harder.
At some point I’m like okay, I can’t finish, why isn’t he just f-ing me instead, he never usually insists that I finish before we f, it’s always after.
I whispered in his ear “just f me daddy I don’t think I can finish” twice but he says no. Keeps going, I say “just f my mouth”, no again.
Couples minutes pass by and honestly at this point my v just gets numb. He starts getting angry and grabs my hair agressively while sighing.
At this point I’m just scared because I know it’s not aggression to turn HES just genuinely angry.
At some point he just stops. I tell him to just f me, I can’t come.
He gets super frustrated, starts going on a rant about how I’m the problem, he’s rubbing it just like I usually love, now he’s turned off, he hates doing this and is never doing it again.
I’m like, well, if you wanna take it that way, no you were not rubbing it like usual, you rubbed super harsh and fast and I told you that I don’t like it.
Still laying on my chest, he starts talking about how he “f-ing hates me”, all women are different and it’s clearly an emotional issue because of whatever reason.
Then he goes “and you can’t be like the other girls, you have to take like f-ing 28 minutes to come, your c-t’s too big and you reject me all the time.” “Now I can’t f you im just too angry you completely turned me off”.
Fight starts, I will not tolerate him shaming my body when he knows it’s one of my insecurities. I tell him to get off of me. He says he’s not moving. Keeps talking about how he hates me and will never do this again.
Finally he moves and tells me to do it myself. I say no, you turned me off completely with your tantrum. He says “good, you deserve it”.
I got off the bed while he’s still saying that he hates me and I told him that he’s a child.
Basically, wtf? Am I in the wrong? Wtf is wrong with him