I am a 29M and my girlfriend is a 26F. I am trying to understand myself and views on body count.
I (29M) recently found out my girlfriend (26F) has a body count of 40+ while I have a count of 3. Granted, she has been in 1 long term relationship of 1.5 years and I as well for 6.5 years.
I think I am more experienced in f-ing from our own respective personal encounters. Body count is so complicated.
She was not the attractive girl growing so when she started to get attention later in life she started to put out and reveal more of her body to validate her insecurities about looks.
She claims she regrets more than half of her body count and often dissociates during f-ing and had little to no enjoyment.
At first I cared about body count but after hearing her complicated, complicated story, I care less and realize it’s so depending on circumstance.
I am writing this looking for feedback. I am trying to grow, understand and mature as a person.
Netizens’ comments
It sounds like you’re learning that a high body count doesn’t necessarily bother you, and that it may not mean what you thought it meant. So if you’re looking for feedback, I’d say congrats and good for you! The reasons behind the number and what it means are what matter, not the actual number.
I had a relationship with a similarly large discrepancy. I was secure in her desire for me, even though she’d been with a lot of people, and she really appreciated me as a partner. But I felt small compared to her at times, and felt lesser than the other men who were better seducers than me.
Those feelings did contribute to the end of our relationship, along with some other issues. Maybe dating a girl with a similar life experience to me would have helped. But so would other strategies, like doing the work to overcome those feelings of being lesser or having more experiences of my own.
Hope that helps.