I have been with my boyfriend “Jason” for about 2 years we are both in our mid-20s. I have known my friend “Stacey” for about 8 years.
For as long as I’ve been dating Jason, Stacey has made rude comments about how unattractive she finds him. She always says things like “I would never date Jason because his nose is SO big, it’s like a clown nose” (that’s literally something she said last week). She doesn’t say it to Jason’s face, just to me.
I always ask her to stop, and she does for a bit. But then after a day or two, she’ll do it again. It really irritates me.
The other day, she made the clown nose comment and she also made fun of Jason’s laugh, and I snapped. I told her that she should stop wasting her time on hating Jason because if Jason was single, there’s no way he’d date her. I also asked if she would like me to make fun of her to her back the way she does to Jason, and I threatened to do it. As a disclaimer, I would never actually do that. I just said it to prove a point.
Stacey started crying and she left my house. She told some of our other friends about the incident, and they said I was an AH for saying Jason wouldn’t date her. They said it really hurt her feelings, and since she’s single and I’m not, I should have had some tact. Stacey also said my comments implied that she was undateable, even though I never said that. I just said that Jason wouldn’t date her.
Anyway, it’s been a mess of a situation. so am I?
Here are what netizens think:
- Your friend is a sicko. She either has a crush on him so she tries to constantly insult him to hide it or she’s extremely jealous of you having a bf so she’s projecting hard. Either way she sounds like a shitty manipulator by trying to twist your words and running to others.
- She probably also told the friends a completely different story of what had happened, most likely making herself appear like the victim in that situation.
- She is probably trying to manipulate you into breaking up with him, so they can be single together and hang out more often (or go out or whatever she thinks you are doing less with her since having a bf).