How do I initiate a breakup?
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A few months ago, my boyfriend (28M) has confronted to me (23F) that he has bought undergarments from other females out of curiosity.
He apologised to me that he will never repeat the mistake again and I forgave him.
Recently, I discovered that he has subscribed to OF and has DM-ed a girl who offers “services” (tho nothing has happened yet). Yes, he broke my trust again though I love him genuinely..
I am a foreigner and I am currently living with him and his family, which means that I have to find a rental room immediately after I break up with him. A
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ny advice on how to bring this topic up to him? And where can I find immediate housing in SG? Appreciate your advice..
Netizens’ comments
- Get your own place first.even if you don’t break up it’s good for your mental health to have some time apart
- He is counting on your dependence on him and his family to be his get out of jail card. Call his bluff. Leave him and find a place in a co-living space.
- Got any friends you trust and can stay with? I’d call on them first if you can, so that you’re able to move out right away. Otherwise, go look at properties to rent immediately. Move your stuff, then have the talk with him.
- Hopefully you have somewhere else you can stay
- Other than your bf, do u have any friends in Singapore, that you can trust with this kind of stuff
- Lol how to bring the topic up is easy. “We’re breaking up. You did X which is a deal breaker for me. Wish you well but can’t be with you anymore”. For immediate housing, you can stay at a hostel until you figure it out, but it’s not rocket science. Either hotel or airbnb, or rent a room/apartment if you can afford it.
- Find somewhere independent to live, and quietly leave. Don’t rationise or bother discussing. The context will always be ‘in asia/singapore we do it this way’ – will never make sense or be particularly excusable (depending on where you’re from). Don’t bother 🤷🏻♂️