I have been single for all my life (25 years, male). I have tried dating apps for around 2 years now, and while I do get some matches (one per month on average), I think the problem is me because I can never seem to get out of the talking stage.
I have only been on 1 date my whole life. The pandemic did make finding people outside of apps difficult, but even now as I try social groups etc the people there just aren’t in my age range.
How does, or should, one acquiesce in the fact that one may never be able to find a partner?
A lot of people tell me being single is great: I have freedom, I can save money etc, that I should just wait for the right one and she will come eventually, that I should embrace my singlehood, that I should love myself more and all the typical things that people in a relationship will tell their single friends etc etc.
I just feel so lonely and sad. But the reason why I desire a companion is because I’m not close to my family and my friends rarely entertain me anymore (due to school/work/presence of girlfriend etc).
I suppose in life, there are some things that one just cannot have… For a good education at NUS and a stable, high-paying job in the civil service, I seem to have traded all that in in return for not having a love life (or rather, an ugly face).
My job is highly demanding and stressful and I’m just so afraid I’ll go crazy if I don’t have an outlet/supportive network to seek.
So I guess my main questions is: How would/should one acquiesce in not being able to find a partner for emotional support?
Editor’s note: For the readers, “acquiesce” means to accept something reluctantly.