Got one uncle sit down kopi shop the other day, shake head until neck pain. He tell his kakis, “Eh, I really don’t understand one thing. Why some people spend so much money on wedding, hire marriage counsellor, buy diamond ring, then after that still go and find cheating spouse outside?”
The uncle say nowadays marriage like investment plan, very expensive. Need hotel ballroom, photography package, honeymoon in Europe. But after all that, some couples still fight until want call divorce lawyer. He laugh, “Wah lao, if like that, better don’t get married lah, save money, save face.”
Modern Marriage Stress
Nowadays people very stress, got toxic marriage stories everywhere. One moment, they show on Instagram, holding hands like perfect couple. Next moment, you hear from friend-of-friend, husband got secret account on online dating app, wife go holiday with colleague.
Some aunties at the kopi tiam say problem is people forget about emotional health. They rush into marriage for the glam, but never sit down and talk about real issues like money, family pressure, or career. That’s why family therapy centres always fully booked — everybody got story to tell.
Lessons for Singapore Couples
The uncle also joke, “Cheating not cheap hor. You think mistress free? Later kena blackmail, kena alimony, then sure bankrupt.” His friends laugh, but also agree. Marriage is not only about love — it’s about commitment, trust, and effort.
At the end of the day, uncle’s advice very simple: If not ready, don’t rush. Better stay single, enjoy freedom, than get stuck in a toxic marriage and waste money on divorce lawyers.
He sip his kopi, shake head again: “Marriage is forever, not weekend promotion. If cannot tahan, better don’t sign the contract lor.”