My boyfriend (28m) got blackout drunk and rubbed another girls leg in front of me (28F)
We’ve known each other for 4 years, been together a little over 1 and recently moved in together. We were hanging with some friends, drinking, grabbed dinner, went to someones house and played drinking games sitting in a circle.
We were all pretty drunk, but my boyfriend was wasted like I’ve never seen before. In the middle of a game, I see him rubbing the leg of the girl on the other side of him.
She looked at me like wtf? No one else there seemed to notice. I made my boyfriend move and then I called us a taxi home.
The next day he didnt remember anything. When I told him he was super ashamed and remorseful, promised it would never happen again.
We hung out with everyone again the next day and it was totally normal.
This happened a few days ago and I’ve felt a shift in our relationship. I feel really distant from him, just going through the motions.
Since he doesn’t remember anything it’s hard to work through why this happened. Besides this there havent been any red flags.
I guess my question is how do we get past this? I do love him but I cant stop thinking about- what if i wasn’t there? Can i ever trust him to go out alone?