I am seriously so done with the dating scene in Singapore. Just need to post this here to see if I’m the one losing my mind or if the entitlement out there has reached absolute peak delusion.
So, I’ve been talking to this girl from a dating app for about two weeks. Everything seemed quite okay, conversation was flowing, similar interests, same vibe. Yesterday, we were talking about our daily routines, and she asked me how I usually commute to my office in the CBD. I honestly didn’t think twice about it and just said, “Oh, I usually just take the feeder bus to the MRT, or sometimes direct premium bus if I’m feeling lazy. It’s quite fast, takes about 45 minutes.”
Tell you, the moment I sent that, the vibe completely shifted. The replies went from paragraphs to one-word answers.
Then this morning, I wake up to a giant wall of text. She basically told me that she doesn’t think we are a “good match” because our lifestyles and values are too different. And then she dropped the bomb. She literally wrote that a guy in his late 30s still taking public transport to work is a “huge red flag.” She said it shows a lack of drive, that I’m probably “poor,” and definitely “not up to her class” because she expects her future partner to at least drive or take Grab Premium everywhere.
Walao eh, my jaw literally dropped. I was completely stunned.
Since when did taking the bus in Singapore become a crime or a sign of poverty? We have literally one of the best public transport systems in the world! My office is right on top of an MRT station. If I buy a car now, with COE prices sitting comfortably in the six figures, I’m easily blowing $2,000 to $3,000 a month just on depreciating metal, petrol, ERP, and ridiculous CBD parking fees. Choosing not to waste money on a car when a bus card costs me a fraction of that is called being financially smart, not being poor!
The irony is, I actually have a very solid sesh—good savings, a stable IT career, and I’m actively managing my own investments. But because I choose to take the bus instead of flexing a financed Mercedes that I don’t need, I am suddenly a low-class red flag?
It’s this toxic, materialistic mindset that is ruining everything. Everyone wants the finished product, the guy who can high-SES them around town immediately, without looking at actual financial maturity or character. If taking a highly efficient public bus to work makes me “low class,” then fine. I’d rather stay single and keep my bank account intact than date someone whose self-worth is tied to the passenger seat of a car.
Rant over. Going to tap my EZ-Link card later with immense pride.MAN TAKE BUS TO WORK, DATE SAID IT’S IS A RED FLAG “POOR MAN, NOT HER CLASS”