A friend of a Singaporean guy shared a story with us and wants the internet to judge what he’s doing. He is truly concerned with his friend. But it seems that his friend is blinded by what he defined as “love”.
I would like to share a story of my friend that I have already given up helping. My friend met a Vietnamese girl in a disco and he started hanging out with her. It did not take long for them to become BFGF status, Things started escalating quickly. First I would like to say my friend is not physically attractive, he has very low self-esteem and the intelligence of a buffalo. Initially, none of our clique was bothered with what kind of girl he is with and he is free to “love” anyone until he started to prioritizing the girl over regular day to day activities and started asking us for money.
Girl’s Birthday
It was the girl’s birthday and my friend who just joined the workforce did not have much money. Despite knowing that my friend does not have much money the girlfriend insisted that she wants an iPhone for her birthday or she will break up with him.
My friend began going around and begged people to loan him some money so that he can afford the iPhone, My group of friends explained that a real loving girlfriend who knows about his financial status will not force him to take money from other people to satisfy her materialistic needs.
He turned a blind eye to all of our advice. One of our friend’s who pities him loan him the money. It took him months before he was able to return the money and it did not stop here. In many countries, having an Apple device was like having a branded bag, proud that she had gotten her hands on the iPhone she now wants an Apple Watch from him.
Of course, he bought it for her since he already “invested” so much with the girl, in his terms he defines it as “investment”. In my terms, I called it “Gamble” and “burning money”.
Of course for a “buffalo”, eating where your sh*tting is “investment”
Rental
Having a long-distance relationship is obviously difficult and now the girl wants even more from him. He is now paying rent for her home in Vietnam and despite spending so much money he felt insecure.
Every refusal to her financial needs will result in an argument between the couple, this is no longer a healthy relationship, more like “You pay for my stuff and I will suck your fat d***”.
He would often go to the girl’s Facebook and click on “Like” on every single post to make his presence known to her male friends.
Chinese New Year Coming
In Vietnam, Chinese New Year is just as a big deal over there, when CNY is coming it means that he would need to fork out money for her the celebration in Vietnam, where he does not even attend.
It did happen and she is still leeching on to him today.