A Singaporean woman posted on Facebook on the dilemma that she is in as she got pregnant overseas, dumped her boyfriend, and is now a single mum. But her ex-boyfriend still wants her back.
Here was what she stated in her Facebook post.
I met my first bf (call him Dave) in junior college and we used to be the model couple in our school. I used to think that I was really lucky to have met ‘the one’; he was really caring and gentlemanly towards me, never once had he ask for any favours or made inappropriate advances towards me (we were both Christians). After A levels, I have decided to pursue Veterinary in Sydney while he served his national service. Despite the barriers of distance, we managed to maintain LDR for 3 years and were always admired my our friends on how we managed to maintain this relationship. He would always call me everynight and we would talk about our plans to get married and have children, BTO, etc…
All these changed when I met this guy (call him Paul) in the final year of my course. He was extremely charismatic, witty and knew how to please me. The time I spent with him made me realised that my life could be much more exciting and fulfilling; he taught me how to surf, dive etc… I decided to break up with my bf since I find it pointless to continue a relationship that I no longer feel anything about. After my graduation, I decided to stay in Sydney as I was dating and living with Paul. Unfortunately, I was pregnant soon after…
I was really afraid to tell my parents about my pregnancy especially before marriage as my family is very conservative, so I tried to convince Paul about it but he would tell me off for having such backward thinking. After 5 months of arguments over marriage and other matters, Paul decided to kick me out of his apartment and left me stranded on the streets pregnant with his baby. Fortunately, a classmate of mine found me a place where I stayed and delivered my daughter. During this period, I broke the news of my pregnancy to my family expecting them to lash out at me but upon hearing my news, they immediately made arrangements to fly over to take care of me… I was terribly sorry and guilty to make my parents go through such torment; facing the gossips of relatives and the church community. After my delivery, I returned to Singapore hoping to start my journey afresh.
A few months ago, I met Dave again in a gathering with our friends. I found out that he’s still single (in fact he has not dated ever since we broke up). Ever since that encounter with Dave, he has initiated a couple of dates with me despite knowing that I have a daughter. I can tell that he still loves me and he’s looking for a reconciliation. I’m now conflicted on whether getting back together with him is a right thing to do.
Although I still have feelings for him and he promised to treat my daughter as his own, I feel that I do not deserve a guy like him. It will be extremely unfair for a gentleman like him to faced judgemental gazes and questions whenever he is together with my daughter who looked predominantly caucasian. I betrayed his love for me from the beginning and a dirty and impure woman like me who should never deserve to be blessed with such a generous love from him. Should I reject him and give him a chance to find a girl more deserving of his love than me?
Source: NUSwhisper