A woman recently shared on Facebook on how she finally divorced her husband from hell. She stated how her husband constantly consumed drugs. She was mentally abused for many years before she finally managed to divorce her husband.
Here is her full story.
I gave birth before married and i have a son from my previous marriage. My husband has a sweet decent face which people thought he is a decent type. But he is actually an ex convict for drugs. I’m the type who dont judge people’s past and easily accept that person
Before married, he was sweet to my son. Then when i gave birth to my daughter, he starts to control and name calling me. I was having depression during my confinement. I was unemployed and no source of income. Eventually, I turn to SSO for financial help. Within 6 months of sso help. I got married. Was happy and blessed to be able to marry my secondary school crush. After 3 days of our wedding, my husband starts accusing me of having an affair and cheated on me whereas i don’t. I was busy handling my infant and trying to do homebased business to support him. On nov 2019, he got into an accident but his family accused me gotten in into an accident. Truth is, he lied to me and followed his colleagues to grab some illegal substances. I wasn’t aware of such things. We received baby bouns but that too he controlled
My sso ended on jan 2020 and my husband was unemployed. We were struggling and took up any part time job to continue our lives together. The accusing, name calling and abusing start to happen. He started threatening to divorce me and told me that i will be single forever as he will spread all unnecessary rumors about me. I remain quiet as i don’t want to ruin my marriage. Before circuit breaker, i found out he help his elder sister to pay for drugs which make me furious with him. He didn’t side me but he sided his sister instead. The name-calling and accusation start to worsen.
My sso was approved after 4 months. Thats when he stops giving maintenance. He asked me to use the money given to buy groceries. As a wife, i didnt argue back as I knew whenever I argue back, he will start to dig out my past and name-calling. He starts his full-time job on February and he controls my daughter’s babybonus again.
I always assumed he was honest till on june, i was about to wash his pouch till i found meth substance in his pouch. When I asked him, he denies it’s his. He apologised and promised that he won’t do it again. Again, I forgive him and try to change his addiction. Day by day, his addiction worsened. His sex addiction worsens till he wants more than thrice per night. Whenever i object, he will start accusing me of sleeping around with guys. Which I did not.
I got some financial help till we received a 3 months free wifi. We install cctv in the house for him to spy on me. He will video call every 30mins to see what i’m doing. He gave me a time of 20mins to fetch my kids from Childcare. I started to save some of my sso help for future use.
Ever since we married till now, he didn’t give me monthly maintenance. He even said, ” u got sso money , why i want to give u? U and your mom’s money face!” A few days back, he wasn’t asleep for 2 nights. And he have this habit of checking my phone and tablet. And he will ask a question that he already asked. He went out from the house pretending to go to work. When both me and my mom went out to send the kids to childcare. He quickly enters my mother’s house ( he got keys ) to grab his belongings and my phone. He texted me stated that we divorcing and i am not giving u any money. I want to see if u can survive without me. I hope u and the kids rot in hell.
I replied back, ok let’s divorce. I cant stand having a toxic husband and live my life miserably as life is too short. I dont want to fall into depression. And not to worry, i wont rot . I make sure that both my kids lead to a happy lifes ahead of them.
He got frustrated and he tried to reconcile the marriage BUT he didnt stop name calling. He asked me to selfie and video call him every 30mins. And he forced me to selfie with my mom. When my mom was in the toilet, he asked me to took a photo of of my mom. So i took a video of myself talking to my mom infront of the toilet door. My mom burst in anger and scolded him vulgarities. Which angered him more.
2 nights before, he whatapp me showing that he whatsapp a lawyer to divorce me without giving any maintenance. Which then triggered me to report him to the authorities regarding his drug addiction. My social worker told me to get a ppo and removed his name from CC. Quickly file a divorce at syariah. He was furious i reported on him. And he tried to reconcile. Which i only take my report back if he signed the agreement that he will go counselling and rehab. He objected and he quickly blocked me at all social media. He then told me that he will report to sso that i misused the money for enjoyment. Which i dont as i saved those money for important used . Alhamdullilah that Allah shows me his evil and heartless attitude. Alhamdullilah that i am able to remove a toxic person in my life. I am blessed that my family supported me to help look after the kids as i will be starting my part time job soon.
I did told my husband whom going to be an ex husband soon, with or without u , i am strong enough to stand on my 2 feet and i will saves up enough cash for another 10 years to buy my own bto house with my kids. I will ensure that my kids have sufficient things to allow them able to study and complete their education.
Currently, he is paranoid and having delusions about CNB raiding his house. He even blamed me and threatened to sue me when his mom had a fall at their home. Which humour me as i am at home taking care of my kids and busy crocheting some bags to sell online.
Source: Storience.co