A Singaporean boy recently took to Facebook and stated on how he proposed on an open relationship with his current girlfriend. The rules were that both individuals are free to go out and meet with other people which includes casual s*x. But he was left disappointed as Singaporean girls do not “bang” on first date.
Here is the full story.
“So ok I’m prepared to be mocked already, but I’m sure there are some kings here who deep down get how I feel. Long confession lah. So I’ve been together with my gf since year 1, now we’re year 3. Basically we’re at the comfortable stage. Like she’s always a text away. I can always pop by her place and such. She’s just… There lah.I’m very active in camps, so for over two years I’ve had juniors showing interest in me, like confess to their friends and I find out.
But of course nothing further than that because they find out I’m attached and back off.And well back to my gf, I would say that there are no longer the fireworks between us, still strong kinship but I no longer get the butterflies you know. We have the usual couple’s quarrels occasionally. So I started thinking, what if she isn’t my soul mate after all. Why should I force myself to stay with her when uni is the time to meet people and really find the one. Bros, I’m sure you are familiar with this feeling. Men are not made to be biologically monogamous, it’s a social construct. It’s *ssh*lery , I agree. But the carnal desire is there. Men don’t want to admit it, but every guy has fantasised about threesomes or harem situations before. You can act like white knight in the comments and deny whatever lj lah. But you know I know.So anyway but of course I don’t want to outright break it off because what if I’m wrong, right. So I suggested to her that we open our relationship. Like, we’re free to go out and meet other people, “netflix and chill” with them if you know what I mean. But at the end of the day we always have the option to come back to each other. I could tell she was kinda affected by it. She told me she could feel the increasing distance, but she knows it’s not right to tie me down at the prime of my life so she said I can do what I want lah, but she probably won’t do the same.So great! I was glad! And CB just ended that time and I was raring to go lolll. Downloaded CMB and whatever, low-key announced that I’m back on the market to my Hall mates. Started meeting up with girls for coffee. Swt.But wtf it wasn’t like what I imagined. Girls were not dtf. Nobody wanted to bang on the first date. They expect ne to stead for like a few months then maybe proceed to the bedroom. And all the girls that were interested in me suddenly weren’t because they now think I’m a playboy slut. Then I tried tinder, but idk what’s wrong w the girls in tinder cos I keep only matching with 3s and 4s, when back before I had 8s swiping on me (I used tinder to chit chat when I’m bored. Strictly no ons.) so legit idk what happened, it’s like when I was off limits, the whole female world was prostrate to me.
What is it with women, is it because they want what they can’t have? But now I’m available suddenly I can’t get a date that is half presentable. Then okay. 2 weeks ago my gf suddenly spent the night at a guy’s place. And I didn’t know the guy. Which is very weird cos I know all her guy friends. Ok long story short here: she eventually amassed an army of fwb. Girls have it so easy. Realistically speaking she’s a homely girl, not trophy chiobu. Everything average only. I don’t understand how so many guys are interested in her but then again which guy will say no to free sex, especially all the despo virgins in uni.I guess she tasted better fish outside. but how come all my fish rotten one sia. But yeah it’s worrying but all the girls that have matched w me on tinder are less attractive than her AND want me to bring them on like 10 dates before they even let me hold their hand so I guess I’ve no choice but to embarrass myself here and ask my fellow kings who have been in my position… NOW im legit salty cos she’s sleeping with a different guy every week. How do I get her to reduce the fwb time and spend more time with me? Sian sia, how is she even getting all these guys??? To be frank if I also had hee success rate and was sleeping with bombshells every week I also don’t mind continuing this arrangement. Ya lah limpei stupid lah lol I know. No need to waste your time to comment same thing. Just tell me Wat can I do lol.”