A Singaporean girl recently took to Facebook on how she is contemplating on whether to break up with her current boyfriend due to his anger issues. He states that he’s perfect in almost every way but the only flaw in his was that he has an extreme temper.
Here is the full story.
A dilemma that torments me everyday. My boyfriend is tall, handsome and smart. No smoking, drinking, clubbing or gambling. He treats his parents really well and is always willing to spend on them even if it means spending lesser on himself. Excellent with children, he is often reading and playing with his nephews, commenting that he’d like 3 children with me.
Graduated with first class honours and already promoted to management, he is very ambitious and hardworking. Even though he is tired, he will insist to drive me back home from work even though we live pretty far from each other. I know he loves me a lot, he even brought me to Europe last year for my 24th birthday and is always getting me gifts. What more could a girl ask for right?
He is really my dream guy…except for his temper. We’ve been together for 4 years and before dates I always get ready in advance 1 hour early. If I keep him waiting even for 10 minutes it will probably ruin the entire day with him yelling at me about punctuality. There was once I sighed and sulked at his dinner table after a long day of work and afterwards he chided me harshly for showing a black face to his family. I could go on with a very long list of things that anger him. Even the smallest of things like queueing for food will leave him cursing and aggravated. The moment I met his parents I knew where it all came from. While his father is domicile and patient, his mother spares no criticism when things don’t go her way.
So here I am, contemplating if this relationship is worth it. It’s gotten to a point where I will get nervous once he starts showing signs of an outburst. Being someone that’s easy going and peace loving, our fights end up with him just yelling at me while I cry, not wanting to add fuel to the fire. Even though he will apologise afterwards, has never laid a finger on me and is aware of his extreme temper, every argument we have is driving me closer to the breaking point.
All of the bad things he disliked in me, I made an effort to correct. So why is it that he still can’t change for me? Am I not the right one for him? Aside from the anger, he is really my perfect guy and I love him so much. After 4 years together I am extremely reluctant to let go. But on the other hand, I also worry for my future. Call me selfish but I can’t imagine having and taking care of children with a man that goes berserk at the smallest of things. I really want to change him to have more patience and compassion. Please give some advise if you’ve been in a similar situation. Thank you.