A Singaporean girl recently voiced her displeasure after her current boyfriend could not let go of his ex who is married with kids. The boyfriend actually stated on how this girl had a great figure and the s*x was great.
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tldr: my boyfriend’s ex is perfect for him and idk if i’ll ever be able to match up.
i met him through a mutual friend 4 months ago (sep) and we’ve been going out for 3 months (since oct).problem is… he had been seeing this other girl for 6 months before me. she is his dream girl in every way. she’s pretty, mature, great figure, the s*x was great, they communicated well… the thing is, she’s married with children. (before the spotlight turns to questioning his character or something, she claimed that she wanted a divorce. he just truly fell for her and was prepared to accept her kids if they ended up together.)he was still seeing her when he first met me. however, she called things off with him shortly after. he never told me why, but apparently it was a common occurrence in their relationship (also kind of understandable given her circumstances). a while later, we started going out. but they were still texting every day although he said just as friends.
eventually, i told him i was not comfortable with him still talking to her. he acknowledged that he had to choose between losing the then 1-month relationship with me or 6-month friendship with her. i told him that he didn’t have to lose the friendship with her as long as he told her about my existence so she knows there’s boundaries to be kept. however, he claimed that she mentioned she would disappear from his life altogether if he started seeing someone else. he added that friends are important to him and he doesn’t cut connections off easily, especially when he had a stronger bond with her at that time due to the amount of time he knew her vs me. he requested for a break to figure out what he really wants.
fast forward one week later, he asked me out for a drink. we never spoke about her nor did he express what he felt. we just started dating again, sort of like starting afresh with a whole new person. we have met each other’s family and friends and i stay over at his place pretty often, like 3-4 times a week. he’s really sweet and his actions seem sincere.
i don’t think he’s talking to her anymore – at least that’s what he tells me, and i don’t see her name popping up on his phone when i’m with him. however, because we have never spoken about how they ended things for good, there’s still a knot in my heart i can’t get rid of. i have skirted the topic previously by asking if he misses her or asking whether he might be seeing someone else at the side or leave me for someone better. he gets agitated whenever i do so because he feels that how he managed her is none of my business and he hates accusations that he’s cheating on me when he didn’t do anything wrong. he says the focus should be on both of us, and both of us alone.
he decluttered his room recently, and out of the many things he discarded, he kept a receipt for things the girl bought on his behalf (it was his order and he paid for it but she bought it using a staff discount). it’s bugging me because it seems like it obviously has sentimental value to him right? however, i don’t dare mention this to him.
really trying hard to get this insecurity out of the way because he brings so much light to my life and i don’t want to jeopardise something which could be really special. am i being ridiculous for feeling insecure? or am i just a spare tyre?