A story was recently shared on Facebook about a man with his ridiculous demands for his current girlfriend. His girlfriend has no choice but to express her frustrations on the internet.
Here is the story,
” Till this day, I still can’t stop feeling traumatized by my previous relationship. The worst part of it is I know he will never think he’s in the wrong. Here are some examples of his narcissistic manipulation: “
“1. He texted his ex girlfriend very often. When I expressed my discomfort, he said he would never give up a friend for his gf and if I thought otherwise, he implied I was the one who was not good enough for him. He also implied I was very controlling of who he wants to be friends with. For some context, he had over 10 close female friends that he texted or met one on one on a very regular basis (and even brags about it) and I had always tried my best to be understanding (albeit failing at times when they were chio). But he always did not make any attempt to console me in any way but just blamed me for it. Ironically, now that I am his ex girlfriend, he also texts me very often.”
“ 2. We had a group of friends that would regularly hang out together weekly. I brought 2 of my friends in to join (1 of my best guy friends and his gf). After a while, the gf started to treat me in a hostile manner and i felt uncomfortable hanging around her (presumably because she was insecure about my friendship with her boyfriend). When I told my ex about my discomfort and that I didn’t want to hang out with them anymore, instead of trying to understand the level of discomfort I was feeling, he berated me for not allowing him to continue hanging out with them, because it was “selfish of me”. After we broke up, my “best guy friend” continued to hang with their group and we never spoke again. This betrayal continues to haunt me at times.”
“ 3. He was extremely controlling. I’m a night owl and would sleep in on weekends, but he expected me to promise when I could turn up for the weekly outing. If I turned up after that time, he would be extremely angry with me and make a big fuss. When I missed his calls while hanging out with my friends, he called me 50+ times and scolded me like crazy when I finally picked up, because I had not answered him when he was “in an emergency”. It was about blood in his poop. He would also make me promise to limit stuff like my caffeine intake to 1 cup a week, and when I broke it he blamed me very hard, treating it like I was an unreliable person who can’t keep my promises.”
“ 4. He was largely intolerant of work related rant, because he’s a person who “doesn’t like talking about work”. Back then, I was facing many work related stresses and when I expressed them to him, he would switch off or give no comments nor advice. Instead, he would make me feel like I was wasting his time or terrible for having no respect for work life boundaries. “
“++ So many other terrible experiences that ruined my self confidence and worth. During the relationship, I couldn’t see that our confrontations were borne out of his fussiness and self centeredness, and kept blaming myself and believing him when he turned things around to blame me instead. This was partially because he was so confident he is never in the wrong that he justified himself with absolute faith. All these only came to light when I got together with my current awesome boyfriend, who treats me like a treasure and always puts my needs and feelings first. He literally is 1000000x better than my ex in almost every single way. To his current (evergreen) gf, hope you see this and run far far away!! He’s really, really terrible and you definitely deserve better. He may seem like a completely normal or self proclaim to be a very good boyfriend, but he is terribly self centered and narcissistic. No one deserves him ): “