A Singaporean girl recently posted on Facebook after she regretting being together with her boyfriend as he’s ugly and only earns $5,000 a month. She is getting worried as she does not want to marry him as she can’t bear to get intimate with him as he’s ugly.
Here is the full story.
Should I marry my boyfriend if I’m not physically attracted to him?
I’m 27 years old and my bf is 35. We have been together for 7 years and have just paid the downpayment for our BTO. Our wedding would be held in June this year.
When I first met my bf, I had just gotten out of a two-year relationship with my ex and I only intended to use my bf as a rebound to get over my ex. Since my bf was just a rebound, I didn’t care that he’s ugly. In terms of appearance, he’s at most 5/10 but I’m 8/10. Sadly, he’s also very short and skinny (170cm,62kg). Worst of all, he earns very little ($5k/month). My ideal guy has always been someone who is at least 180cm and earns at least $10k/month.
My bf looks ugly but character wise, he’s the nicest guy I’ve ever seen. Throughout the past 7 years, I have tried dating other men. But the guys I dated were not as nice. Some of them had severe commitment issues and some were *ssh*le who cheated on me. On the contrary, my bf has always been a very loyal and loving bf for the past 7 years. To me, my bf feels like someone I could always depend on and that is why I love him so much.
The only problem that I’m facing is, I am not physically attracted to my bf and I cannot imagine being physically intimate with him. Because of this, I told him that I want to wait until marriage to have sex when in fact I already had sex with those guys I dated in the past 7 years. Up till today, I still feel very guilty for what I have done and this is also one of my biggest regrets.
I feel very guilty that I enjoy getting intimate with other men but I still refuse to get intimate with my bf. Recently, I’m starting to feel very worried about having to get intimate with him after wedding. After so many years, I still feel uncomfortable kissing him and when I kiss him, I always have to imagine I’m kissing my crush. And sometimes I really regret applying for BTO with him. But honestly, I don’t mind dating him. I just don’t know if I should marry him. Has anyone been in my shoes? Has anyone married someone you’re not physically attracted to? Is it possible to have a marriage without physical attraction?