A girl took to Facebook to share how she’s not attracted to her boyfriend although they have been together for 7 years and have even paid the downpayment for their BTO flat.
She shared how he is at most a 5/10 (rating his looks) and that she is a 8/10.
She lamented how “short and skinny” he is (170cm and 62kg) and how he only earns $5k per month.
She said her ideal guy is someone who is at least 180cm tall and earns at least $10k per month.
You can read her post in full below:
Should I marry my boyfriend if I’m not physically attracted to him?
I’m 27 years old and my bf is 35.
We have been together for 7 years and have just paid the downpayment for our BTO.
Our wedding would be held in June this year.
When I first met my bf, I had just gotten out of a two-year relationship with my ex and I only intended to use my bf as a rebound to get over my ex.
Since my bf was just a rebound, I didn’t care that he’s ugly.
In terms of appearance, he’s at most 5/10 but I’m 8/10.
Sadly, he’s also very short and skinny (170cm,62kg).
Worst of all, he earns very little ($5k/month).
My ideal guy has always been someone who is at least 180cm and earns at least $10k/month.
My bf looks ugly but character wise, he’s the nicest guy I’ve ever seen.
Throughout the past 7 years, I have tried dating other men. But the guys I dated were not as nice.
Some of them had severe commitment issues and some were *ssh*les who cheated on me.
On the contrary, my bf has always been a very loyal and loving bf for the past 7 years. To me, my bf feels like someone I could always depend on and that is why I love him so much.
The only problem that I’m facing is, I am not physically attracted to my bf and I cannot imagine being physically intimate with him.
Because of this, I told him that I want to wait until marriage to have sex when in fact I already had sex with those guys I dated in the past 7 years.
Up till today, I still feel very guilty for what I have done and this is also one of my biggest regrets.
I feel very guilty that I enjoy getting intimate with other men but I still refuse to get intimate with my bf.
Recently, I’m starting to feel very worried about having to get intimate with him after wedding.
After so many years, I still feel uncomfortable kissing him and when I kiss him, I always have to imagine I’m kissing my crush.
And sometimes I really regret applying for BTO with him.
But honestly, I don’t mind dating him. I just don’t know if I should marry him.
Has anyone been in my shoes? Has anyone married someone you’re not physically attracted to?
Is it possible to have a marriage without physical attraction?
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