A Singaporean guy has recently posted on Facebook after he intentionally hid her from his family for seven years as he was embarrassed that his girlfriend was poorly educated and ugly. What’s worse was that her cooking skills were average and she rarely does household chores and these are further factors that prevented him from considering marriage with his girlfriend.
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My girlfriend found out that I have been purposely hiding her from my family. Now she’s upset and wants to break up with me. What should I do?
I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years since uni year 1. I’m 28, she’s 32. Things have been going smoothly until she found out that I have been purposely hiding her from my family and relatives.
When we first started dating, she would post photos of us on Facebook and even tag me in those photos. Back then, I had no intention to commit to her and thus, I didn’t want my family and relatives to see those photos. When she was asleep, I secretly took her phone and logged into her Facebook account and blocked my family and relatives from her account, so that my family and relatives won’t be able to see her profile and thus won’t know that she exists.
When she asked me if my family have FB accounts, I lied to her that they don’t have FB account. When she wanted to come over my house, I lied to her that my family are staying overseas, I’m renting a room in a small flat, my landlords don’t allow visitors. When she asked me why I never go find my family, I lied that I cut them out of my life as they are very toxic.
Two months ago, she suddenly asked me if I would like to buy a resale flat with her and settle down. I told her I’m busy with work and would prefer to discuss this another day. She also started asking me if I would like to meet her family but I always come up with excuses like I’m too busy with work.
She’s been saying how she would like to get married soon but tbh I have no intention to settle down because of various reasons. Firstly, we don’t earn much. She earns 3k and I earn 6k. I don’t think we can afford mortgage, car and kids comfortably. Secondly, she’s not wife-material. She likes to cook but her cooking skills is quite average and she rarely does household chores, usually only once a week.
Since I don’t have the intention to settle down, I don’t see the need to introduce her to my family. Moreover, I think my parents won’t even like her because she’s poorly educated as she’s just a diploma holder and she doesn’t look very presentable as she doesn’t wear makeup and has poor fashion sense.
After she accidentally found out about the list of blocked people on her FB account, she unblocked all of them and found out that my family and relatives are all staying in SG and not overseas. She accused me of betraying her trust in me. She also accused me of looking down on her because she thinks I’m ashamed of her and thus want to hide her from my family. But I’ve never felt ashamed of her. I truly love her as she’s my biggest supporter.
After she found out the truth, she got really upset and now she even wants to break up with me. I feel so disappointed that she is willing to throw away our relationship just because of such trivial matter. Seriously I don’t even know why she need to overreact. What I can do to win her back? I really need her in my life.-