Recently a guy shared his relationship issue on the social media asking for suggestion.
His relationship was like a business contract and have to ‘renew’ the T&C everytime when he want to advance to the next level (like playing mobile game).
This was what he posted on the social media,
“Hi guys, I have some odd problems with my gf, hope you all can help. She is very SOP-based person. When we first started our relationship, we had a conversation to lay out the expectations and what each party can/cannot do (basically the terms and conditions lah). “
“I thought that was the only time we would do this. But no. Everytime I want the relationship to proceed further either emotionally (e.g by start to talk to her about more intimate issues or initiate more intimate physical touch) or in terms of our future (e.g. by mentioning BTO and stuff), she immediately detects it and asks me if we are “leveling up” and if yes, we will need to update the “contracts”. “
“Conversely, whenever she wants our relationship to “level up”, she also mentions to me and again, update me about the terms and conditions. I ask her why she does not want things to flow naturally. She tells me she needs to get herself prepared emotionally and she can only do so knowing the full terms and conditions that both parties are in agreement with.“
“Is there anything I can do or suggest her to do to improve our situation? Other than this, she is a really nice girl and I don’t have any complain about our relationship.“