A Singaporean man is currently finalizing his divorce with a Hong Kong woman but he’s currently at wit’s end after he didn’t know what to do with his newborn.
Here is the full story.
I had posted a number of times about how my wife ranted, bickered, looked down at me and even threatened divorce with me. Nonetheless, I still had hopes to remain in the marriage for the sake of my newborn. However, things completely changed after yesterday night.
Yesterday, she ranted at me for not switching off the WIFI when the baby is around and that the baby hangers is used for hanging adult stuff. I ignored her and then she started pushing me for the reasons why I do that and not being careful. I told her to stop the bickering but she say she will not stop. I couldn’t stand for it and told her that I forgot. Then she started digressing saying how useless and a rubbish I am and that no wonder I am not able to succeed in my career and in the society.
I told her that I am paying for all the expenses at home and bring food to the table so she has no rights to call me a rubbish. She is not satisfied. Then she went on saying that she didn’t want a child at all given that we don’t have a property in Hong Kong. I told her that it is unaffordable to get a property in Hong Kong but we can still continue to rent. Btw, I am paying the rent but she is still not satisfied and continue to call me useless. She was discontented about all the major decisions that I had made and the outcome that had occurred and she wanted me to admit my mistakes. I then asked her what mistakes since I paid for everything is the household. She said she thought I was a person who was capable of great things but turned out to be a rubbish.
However, the biggest shock is when she told me she fancies somebody else, I finally realise that she really wants to give me green hat and that there is no return anymore. She says she wants a complete family for the baby but would pass the baby to me and demanded for half of the house I owned and maintenance fee if we don’t live together. I told her she is crazy that she even dare to mention about mainenance fee. I deeply regretted my decision to marry such a realistic and money-minded woman. My mental health has also suffered a great deal after all the abuses. Now, the thing is even we are going in separate ways, I would love to absorb all ideas on what is the best arrangement for our newborn?
Lastly, my series of real life experience is a good reminder to all males who are originally easy-going and optimistic to think twice about getting married because when things don’t go right financially, whether controllable or uncontrollable, you would be under huge stress unless you are lucky enough to find a woman who is willing to love you and understand you unconditionally. However, women change easily especially when men cannot provide the so called security in their eyes. I am now extremely scared of being in a relationship already. I just hope that I can bring up the newborn with all my love while working to support the little one financially.