A man who is 7 years into his marriage said he needs to “release” his frustrations and talk about the non-existent sex life between him and his wife, he then asked if it’s wrong for him to go for a special massage to release his inner demons.
Here is the story:
I am 37yr old male, married for the last 7yrs to my wife, who is a 36yr old female. We had met a year before our marriage and had hit it off instantly.
However, over the course of that year, we figured some negative sides about each other. To the extent that she was opposed to the marriage in the last 2 months. However, after family intervened and a lot of discussions, we went forward hoping for the best.
Cut to the present – we have never had sexual intercourse ever. In the initial years, she didn’t want to, then I started losing interest because of her not showing any interest and now it looks like she has lost all interest in sex. We love each other a lot and care for each other.
I have zero doubt that she is very very emotionally attached to me and cannot imagine life without me, and neither can I – hence separation is not an option at all. Very recently, she has started saying that we should slowly start to initiate our sexual journey – though, it has not been a stage where she is ready to go! Also, she doesn’t like talking dirty or talking about sex stuff much – and I Love it. I have this wish to be a Dom to a Sub, which I used to hope my wife would be for me but looks like all that is surely not a thing to happen in this lifetime. Given my situation, would it be wrong for me to long for an erotic massage just to let myself off? I am a strict no-no for any relationship at all, and I will never want to cheat on my wife. But is getting an erotic massage cheating – especially in my situation?
I see a lot of posts on other sites where people say how their sex life became better after attending a massage, etc. Given that I have zero ideas about sex, maybe a massage session will open me up too? Or maybe it would just be a gateway to explore my fetishes?