A netizen shared how her brother-in-law is like a freeloading manchild and infected her entire family.
Here is the story
How do u forgive a relative that brought calamity on your family? (Hope admins post this)
With the recent hot topics of 1) husbands being man-childs and 2) visiting others when in close contact with covid positive ppl, I would like to share my story and get everyone’s thoughts on what I should do.
For context: I live with my parents. My sister, bro-in-law and their son have their own place but live together with us out of convenience. My bro-in-law is nearing 45 years old man. All he does everyday is either sleep/lie on bed after work or play games on his mobile phone. He has never participated in the taking care of his 5 year old son (like an absent parent), never paid for the son’s expenses, so of course, he had also not taken care of his in-laws (my parents). In short, he’s just another big kid.
My bro-in-law recently caught covid, because he works on-site and his colleagues find it a hassle to wear masks. Despite the fact that he got ill and was having a fever/cough/all the symptoms of covid for a few days already, he refused to isolate at his own place and continued staying with his in-laws, refused to see doctors, refused testing and refused medication. He just lie in bed with his mobile games. In the end he ended up infecting his son, his wife, his in-laws, and myself since we are all in the same house.
Now, his father-in-law (my dad) is struggling and fighting for his life in ICU because he caught covid from my bro-in-law. My dad has been faithfully staying home, wearing masks, keeping clean and going for jabs. To think that he has to catch covid this way from his ungrateful son-in-law and may just leave us at any point in time is really upsetting.
At this point idk what to do. Idk how to tell my bro-in-law to man up and start being responsible, take care of his own health so that he stops infecting ppl, and step up to take care of his own family, like how a 45 years old man should be behaving. He’s lucky that my parents have been caring for him and his son all along, but this will no longer be the case with my dad bedridden and my mum old.
I also dk how to forgive someone who brought nothing but harm to my family, and it’s hard for me to interfere in this because I am younger than him and it’s his marriage, but it’s also a fact that my dad is in this critical condition thanks to my bro-in-law. I am worried that I might just punch my bro-in-law one fine day.
Sometimes I think it’s much better to stay single than be in a marriage like this where the husband is nothing but a curse. Is there a hotline that I can call to report people who are covid positive but still goes out infecting everyone? What would you guys do in my situation?
Netizens’ comments
- You shouldn’t punch him. You will be prosecuted for hurting animals.
- Report to police. Since he is absent parent, absent minded, absent intellegence, him not being ard will make little to no difference. Let him isolate in changi chalet.
Disclaimer: This post first appeared on NUS Whispers.