In a relationship, I need S to feel loved and wanted by my partner. I don’t know why, it’s just how it is. Outside of a relationship, it doesn’t matter. I might want a hook up once in a while, but I don’t need it as I do in a relationship.
Our S life has been lacking from the start. He doesn’t see S as important, because we have all the non-S affection. Cuddling and kissing aren’t enough for me. Telling me he loves me isn’t enough for me. But he doesn’t get it, and I’m tired of trying to explain my needs as if me not having a good enough reason to want S means the need isn’t real.
So why is S important to you?
Here are what netizens think;
- Him not seeing S as necessary is just as valid as you see it as important. You can’t force him into having more sex with you for validation, which is essentially what you want. No amount of “explaining your needs” is going to change that he doesn’t want to do it as much as you. You’re probably incompatible. And that’s that.
- Incompatibility ends a lot of relationships. You will both be happier with someone with similar drives. That’s my advice.
- Break up and move on. You’re incompatible.