One of my husband’s overseas friends passed away last night. We live in Singapore and my husband said this morning that he was planning on attending the funeral.
That means he will be travelling 8+ hrs as well as using time off work and over the weekend.
Thing is that we agreed that he’d attend my brother’s welcoming party after he came home from BMT confinement.
My husband said, he’d meet him some other time but I said that for one my family will all be there and my brother would be hurt if he don’t see him there. He said this was his friend who died, his friend from uni.
I asked him to skip the funeral and instead send his condolences via email or something but, he lashed out and said, that I have no empathy or a clue of how much this friend mattered to him. He said, at some point, this friend helped him with his literal blood when my husband was hospitalized.
We went back and forth and I called him selfish and stubborn. He was extremely upset he left the house and hasn’t called me yet.
Am I wrong for expecting him to show my brother and family that he actually cares? Also, I don’t want this to ruin my husband’s relationship with my brother.
I know my brother, He can be too sensetive sometimes and will take this as in my husband doesn’t care.
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