I(36M) am married to a wonderful woman(34). When we first got married 8 years ago, I was making about $46k and she was making $200k per year.
A year later we welcomed a sweet baby girl.
After her maternity leave was up, I took unpaid leave to stay with my baby. Well I found out that being a dad and taking care of the house is 1000 times better than working in a stressful office. We discussed it, and I became a full time stay at home dad.
I like being a stay at home dad. I even enjoy keeping the house clean, cooking, taking care of the kids (7F, 4M and 1M), being involved in the mum groups etc.
The only person who seems to have a problem with things is my older brother (44M). I don’t know how, but despite being raised by parents who are very much champions of equal rights, he grew up to be the embodiment of “man provides and guides, woman makes home and follows”.
This is probably why he is a 2 times divorcee who has terrible relationships with his kids.
For the past 7 years he has been making jokes about me, trying to imply that I am less of a man because my wife earns money while “I play little wife”.
I ignore him usually and just shake my head at him.
Well my wife and I were drunk one time and we came up with a bit of a naughty solution. He gives major vibes of being a prude.
So when he made a joke last Sunday along the lines that “if you were married to a man, you would 100% be the bottom”
I replied him by saying that at least if I marry a man I have a partner and your only partners are your right and left hands because no one can stand you.
He turned so red, everyone kind of let out a shocked laugh and he finally shut up. After a while he said that he did not like the way I mocked him. I said if he keeps his comments to himself, I would have no reason to retort him.
Today, my mum called me to say that he refuses to attend Sunday dinner if I am there unless I apologise, however I refused to and it kinda got my mum get stuck in the middle.
Should I apologise?
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