My girlfriend of 4 months is in a really tough spot right now. She is broke and needs to pay her rent asap.
She became homeless after her parents chased her out for some problems.
I pay for everything in our relationship (she offers to pay for little things when she has it) but it’s rare. She’s been extremely overwhelmed and has been snappy/lashing out at me a lot. It’s causing a great deal of stress in our relationship and I’m mentally exhausted by it.
Fortunately, I’m financially secure with a stable career which is why I always pay for things and have offered to help her out. I know she won’t accept my help in this way, but I really don’t like how all of this is affecting us. I feel really bad for her but I also need to look out for myself. She’s not actively trying to find a job or a career path which bothers me.
She’s a pub hostess and says she will just need to start working more.
I wish she had a long-term goal or plan for a more stable job. I’m doing my best to support her through this difficult time but I don’t like how unmotivated she is. I can’t see myself being with someone who is this messy, but I love her so much and truly want the best for her.
The thing is I don’t want her to make this a long time job and I hope she will get a proper job soon. I don’t to be her walking ATM.
I don’t know what to do.