Here’s the context: I was on a business trip with my BF’s mom. She is my boss. The incident happened during our rest time at night time. I have lived in the place for some time so I’m familiar with it.
Earlier after dinner, we were walking towards our hotel with her and my colleagues, I casually told one of my colleagues that I’m planning to go to my favourite café to hang out. She told me she would love to come.
My BF’s mom (75y/o) was there and heard it. As soon as we were back in our room, I told her I was going out alone. I said this because my colleagues didn’t want to be with her. If she learned that my other colleagues will join me, she might get FOMO’d and decide to come with us.
We would like to have this moment among ourselves, and be able to talk freely about everything that we want to. I was actually in the middle of a phone call with my BF when I told her I’m going already.
She got pissed and told me “what kind of a decent woman would go out alone at 10 PM and hang out in a public place like a prostitute?” My BF heard this, and he told his mom it was okay since I have been doing it while I was living there.
I was also starting to get irked by what she said so I decided to just go and cool my head off. She was mumbling something about my attitude which I ignored. When I told her I’m going ahead, she angrily asked me “why, are you seeing someone??”.
This pushed my buttons that I wasn’t able to stop myself from reacting. Then we started arguing, I asked here 2x, “If I went out tonight, would that make me indecent?”. She answered “yes” 2 times. Then I stormed out of the room since I really need to take a break from her. The day after we tried to act like nothing until we went home.
As soon as we went home, my BF tried to reconcile us, but in reality, he was fighting me over what happened. I needed to defend myself so we started shouting at each other. Since we live in his parents’ house his mom came into our room and triangulated the situation, when in fact it was because if her why we were fighting.
BF’s mom told me she doesn’t have anything to be sorry about since the intention was not malicious, and also she added that “her mouth is decent”. So in short, the situation got worse.
Now my BF reiterates that I am the one at fault and his mom isn’t, when in my opinion that shouldn’t have happened if his mom knows how to respect people through words, as it was evident that no one likes to be around her. Now I had to leave the company, but it’s okay since I have a job offer somewhere else. However, our relationship is now on the rocks because of what happened and BF is blaming me for it. My BF was telling me that his mom helped us financially which is true.
But what I am saying is that, that is not a warrant for her to disrespect people.