I want to take a trip without my husband.
Previously I took a five day solo trip across Europe to celebrate turning 30, and I had a great time. It was some of the most relaxed I have ever been. I love going on vacation with people I love, but it was so nice to be able to do exactly what I wanted when I wanted and not have to be considerate of what someone else wanted to do as well.
After my solo trip, about two weeks later, my husband and I took a trip just the two of us for about five days as well. It was great, we had a lovely time.
Lately, I have been super stressed at work and feeling burnt out. I feel like I need to take time off and just go somewhere and disconnect. I’m not someone who can be refreshed by taking a week off and sitting around at home. I’m very fortunate that I have the time off I do, and I have weeks of time off I can use. My husband is not so fortunate. He used to work at a job that he had a lot of time off, but a couple years ago he switched to a mostly commission job and won’t get time off until around September.
I let him know that I want to take a vacation by myself, and then we can take another vacation to somewhere neither of us have been when he gets time off in September. He got upset and kept brushing off the topic. I should add, last year he actively encouraged me to go on my solo trip. He later told me that of course he was jealous, but he knew if he didn’t encourage me I probably wouldn’t have gone and he wanted me to go.
After talking about it again he started accusing me to find men overseas.
I would be paying for my vacation with my own savings that he does not contribute to. We do not have kids, just dogs. I frequently travel for work, so it’s not uncommon for me to be gone a couple days at a time and he takes responsibility of the dogs during those times. I would not pick a destination that was some where he has ever talked about wanting to go to.
Am I wrong for still wanting to go?