My husband and I have been married for only 3 months now, and things have hit the fan ever since we came back from our honeymoon.
None of it was about us as a couple, just a family health crisis and then a small car accident. All have been mostly fine up until the last 2-3weeks.
My husband snores RIDICULOUSLY loud.
I knew this before marrying him, but I didn’t know just how much it would affect my sleep until our honeymoon. We have bought everything possible to help with the snoring, and so far so good but ONLY if he stays on his left side specifically. He has an appointment scheduled in January to have his throat looked at, but until then this is what we have to do in order for us to both get some sleep….or so I thought.
For the last 2-3 weeks, I have barely slept because he will end up on his back (which is when his snoring is the loudest) and will NOT roll back over. He sleeps talks, so he will fully acknowledge what I say and agree to roll over, but NEVER does. He will have no memory of the night’s events either. I am literally writing this on 2 days of no sleep.
Tonight, I snapped. All I wanted to do after coming home from work was go to sleep (I am a first responder so my shifts can be and usually are exhausting).
Instead, I ended up yelling at him because he said he was going to go to bed early, despite the fact that I literally do not sleep if he falls asleep first because of his snoring. I admit, I said everything with a ton of anger in my voice, but I am EXHAUSTED.
I know that is nothing more than an excuse, but I don’t have the energy to even care. I ended up threatening to move back to my parent’s house until his appointment so I could get some sleep. He did not take that well and now we are not speaking.
Did I go too far? Would that be an unreasonable thing to do? I can’t even think straight because I’m so tired and I’m scared at this point that it will affect my work performance, which can be deadly for someone in crisis.
We only have a 1 bedroom apartment so there’s no spare room. I also cannot sleep on the couch due to scoliosis issues and he won’t because he is afraid he will stop breathing and I won’t know.
He has only ever stopped breathing once but that’s enough for the both of us. Also, I would only be moving out until his doctor’s appointment where we can have a treatment plan started.