So I (29F) and my boyfriend (33M) have always been pretty open about our pasts, jobs, financial responsibility to family etc.
However, with the effects of the Covid19 Pandemic, his work took a massive hit and he has been earning a third of what he did beforehand.
The other day, I needed to go to the bank after we had lunch together. Generally, if the bill is over a certain amount, I tend to pay to ease the awkwardness.
We entered the bank and I told him to sit in the waiting area whilst I spoke to an adviser (it was about not being able to access my online banking and nothing big).
Once I had left, 20 or so minutes later (the banker was trying to sell me a credit card) he was nowhere to be seen. I searched everywhere and even visited stores in the neighbourhood which I knew he liked to go to. The rain was pretty bad, and I was getting frustrated that his phone was going through to his voicemail. After an hour and a half of looking and waiting,
I decided to go home.
Once I got there, he was also there, hence the argument. He said he didn’t appreciate that I made him wait in the waiting room, but I explained that most of the time, banks will not allow non-married couples in together, especially when we are sharing security information.
He said that he just wanted to accompany me and that he already knew I earned more than him and just wanted to be present. I got angry and defensive because he knows everything about me but this part of me, I wanted to keep to myself.
He really can not get over my betrayal of him and so it’s been three days of awkward silence.
I wrong or he ego too big?
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