So I just dated a Singaporean girl, and it was one of the weirdest date I have ever experienced. I am an Australian and dated lots of girls with different cultural background. I have dated asian (Malaysian, Filipino & Hong Kong girls) and white girls alike. Generally my experience has been pleasant, with lots of flirting, touches, teasing and laughing.
I recently got relocated to Singapore and after a few months I decided to hit the dating scene in Singapore. I decided to hit on this girl at work, got her number and she seem excited to go out with me when texting. Just from texting, she seem fairly normal, although her texting responses to my teasing & flirting can be quite awkward at times – but I never thought much of that at that time. Anyway, fast forward to the actual date, to summarise my experience, I felt like I was out with a guy friend rather than a date.
I did the usual routine, flirting, having deep conversations, teasing, some light touches. But the only thing that comes close to a “feminine” response is some laughs, smiles & eye contact. Of course she may not be interested in me at all which could explain why the lack of what I would consider counter flirt – but then I think its safe to assume that she should have some interest based on texting cues & the fact that she agreed with the date. Anyway that was the weirdest date ever, it felt so one-sided, I lost some interest after the dinner. I was actually planning to take her to dessert after, but didnt really feel like it due to her lack of signals.
But surprisingly she suggested dessert, so I was like hmm maybe she is starting to warm-up. We went for dessert. But once again, same thing, lack of signals, it really felt like I was out with another guy. My guess is that Singaporean girls either lack emotion or have troubles expressing their emotions. I already did my part in my opinion (taking all the initiatives) so I dont think she is afraid of rejection.
Anyway at first I rubbed it off as a one off experience, ie. I shouldnt be using her to generalise the other Singaporean girls, she may be a peculiar one. But I then subsequently dated another girl & the same thing again. Once again it feels like Im hanging out with a guy rather than a girl. To sum it up, I cant feel the liveliness and energy of a girl that I usually feel on dates, which evolves into chemistry. Anyway, once again a sample size of two girls is too small to tell. But from what I gathered from my Singaporean male friends, it seems they generally agree with me that Singapore girls can be quite emotionally detached and difficult (which would explain why they are all dating Indonesian-Chinese, Malaysians etc. – something which I have always been curious about).
Extra info would be the 2 girls I have dated are at the age range of (22 to 25). Maybe they are just less experienced in dating?
So I guess I am asking Singaporean guys, what have your dating experiences been with a Singaporean girl? Was I expecting things to escalate too fast? Do Singaporean girls usually need more time to warm up before they show some enthusiasm / excitement / cheerfulness / liveliness?
Having said all that. One thing I like about Singaporean girls are that they seem quite honest when conversing. She doesn’t try to hide who she is, which I think is a big bonus. Anyway I will try dating one more Singaporean girl before giving up. I have heard the Malaysians (which are close neighbours to Singapore) are much more interesting breed. But I have no idea how to tell if a girl is Malaysian or Singaporean. I will probably check out the Malaysians girls next.
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