My bf of close to a year confessed to me that he thinks of his ex, which honestly upsets me. He describes their relationship as “toxic” and “she deserve better” but I don’t understand why won’t he just get better and win her back instead?
Am I a rebound? This is my first relationship, but it’s his third.
For context, we met at the school gym and I showed interest in him first before we got together. He claims that he and his second ex had no common interests/hobbies and she wasn’t his cup of tea. He says that he was attracted to me initially because we had a common interest (gymming) and I was his type of “ideal girl” (physically).
I honestly thought we also connected emotionally (since he confess that to me?). I’m quite lost for words now and I dk what to do…
Here are what netizens think:
- He’s told you the answer literally >> attracted to you INITIALLY due to common interest (gymming) and how you looked physically. Well after nearly a year, maybe he has time to reflect on what he wants / doesn’t want out of a partner and he’s having doubts.
- Good that he’s your bf, not husband. Can find a better man to be your husband lah
- How wonderful it is to date when young. No inhibitations, hesitations, doubts or fear.
- His mind is waivering, he is missing her n regrets his toxic ways. Ask him whats next? See if he can answer or take a long pause
- He is just your gym bf, out of gym… find someone else. Maybe he is also gym specific.. so give it up.lah.. dun be naive