My ex-boyfriend and I have been together for a few years prior to our break up and I’ve noticed something strange about our relationship.
Whenever we go out to eat, he always asks me for money back afterwards. It started off as a joke, but it became a regular occurrence in our few years together.
Every time we go out, we’ll order our meals and then he will always ask me for money afterwards.
It got to the point where he would be calculative over who pays more times for our meals and whenever he thinks that I should pay, he would totally not bring his wallet out.
At first, I thought it was just a funny way of him being playful and I didn’t think too much of it. But then I noticed that every time we go out, he’s always asking me for money back for our meals.
I started to think that it was weird that he never offered to pay for our meals fully or offer to split the bill.
It is not as if he always pays for everything all the time, there were times where I paid the whole bill for our meals and he just take it as its a given that I should do it.
Furthermore, at that period of time, I was still schooling while he had just finally decided to start working.
On top of that, I’ve noticed that whenever we’re out with friends, he always tells them that he pays for our meals and everything.
He’ll tell them that he always takes care of the bill for our meals and that he always pays for everything. But I know that’s not true because I’ve been there and I’ve seen him ask me for money back.
I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he just brushes it off and changes the subject. I think he’s embarrassed to admit that he’s asking me for money back and doesn’t want anyone to know.
I don’t want to make a big deal out of it, but it does bother me that he’s not being honest about it.
I’ve been trying to figure out why was he doing this during the relationship. Is it because he’s really broke and can’t afford to pay for our meals and everything? Is it because he’s just too proud to admit that he can’t pay for everything?
No matter what the reason is, I felt that it’s still not right for him to be asking me for money back and then lying to our friends about it.
Even after our relationship ended, he has been trying to boast to people about how much he ‘spent’ on me on meals and everything else and how much he sacrificed for me when he knows that it is all nothing but lies.
Maybe he still cannot get over our previous relationship and wants people to think badly of me and think highly of him.
But no matter what it is, paper cannot cover fire and a lie will always be exposed one day and I am so glad that I had chosen to end our relationship back then.