A girl shared a story of how she is upset and will cry every time when being intimate with her boyfriend as he has previously cheated on her and she is reminded of it every time he gets touchy with her.
She added that she has always been there for him and did not expect that he will do this to her.
Here is her story
“My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me while I was away for 2 months taking care of my grandmother as she was sick and I had to give her 24/7 attention.
Background story: His father passed away last year and I supported him financially, emotionally and even moved in with him as he was always sad after his dad’s death and needed me to be with him.
My grandmother then fell sick and needed me to take care of her 24/7 as my family was not very well to do and could not afford to hire a nurse to be there for her 24/7.
I was the best candidate to take care of her as I was nursing trained.
I discussed with my boyfriend about this arrangement and he told me to go ahead as he has lost his father and did not want me to regret not being with my grandmother at her sickbed.
Fast forward two months later, I decide to go to my boyfriend’s place to surprise him.
He was elated to see me.
However, one morning, I found messages with other women from the night prior to my return with content such as “I wish you were here”, and “tonight was great” etc while I was on the sofa with him and was about to get intimate.
I confronted him and he admitted his mistakes and asked for forgiveness.
We’ve chosen to try and move on, forgive and build trust again.
However, every time we try to get intimate I cry.
It can be at any stage of the intimacy and I will remember how he cheated on me and I will fake it so that he can be done with quickly and I can hide in the bathroom to cry.
How do I deal with this?”
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