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BF CONTROLS WHAT GF WEARS BECAUSE HE DON’T WANT HER SHOW ‘LONGKANG’

I used to be a controlling partner. I thought I was doing the right thing by making sure my girlfriend dressed modestly, but I was wrong.

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I thought that if I controlled what my girlfriend wore, it would stop other guys from looking at her ‘longkang’. I was wrong.

I tried to tell my girlfriend that she needed to dress more modestly when we went out.

I told her that if she wore something revealing, it would distract other guys and they would think badly of her.

I thought that if I kept her clothing choices conservative, I could keep her safe and protect her from unwanted attention.

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At first, my girlfriend didn’t like it when I tried to control what she wore. She thought it was unfair and controlling.

She felt like I was trying to control her and make her feel ashamed of her body. She felt like I was trying to police her body and her choices.

I was wrong. By trying to control what my girlfriend wore, I was actually making her feel worse about herself.

I was telling her that her body was something to be ashamed of and that she needed to cover it up in order to be “acceptable”.

This was never my intention, but that’s how she felt.

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It took me a while to realize how wrong I was. I realized that by trying to control what my girlfriend wore, I was actually making her feel worse about herself and her body.

She felt like I was policing her and making her feel ashamed of her body.

I realized that the best thing I could do was to accept her body and her choices. I accepted that if she wanted to wear something revealing, that was her choice.

I also realized that if other guys were looking at her ‘longkang’, that was their problem, not hers.

I also realized that no matter what she wore, there will always be people who will judge her. People are going to judge her no matter what she wears, and that’s something I can’t control.

The only thing I can control is how I treat her, and that is to accept her body and her choices.

I now realize that by trying to control what my girlfriend wears, I was only making her feel worse about herself and her body.

I now accept her body and her choices, and I no longer try to control what she wears. I accept that she is in control of her own body and her own choices.

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