So I have been dating my bf for 3 months. He’s been working a job he doesn’t really enjoy and made these big plans to get a new job doing restaurant deliveries.
He doesn’t have a car/bike or a license so to do the deliveries he needs a motorbike/moped. He spends a lot of his money helping his family and has previously had to take out a loan to help his parents, they then couldn’t help him make the repayments so he ended up defaulting on the loan.
This means that when he tried to take out finance to get a bike, he got rejected. This is where I come in, I have been suffering from anxiety and was having problems at work. He was very supportive at this time, offering advice and support when I was struggling.
I now have a good handle on my anxiety and have been offered a great new job! (Yay) He decided to speak to me after I told him about the job and tell me that now that I’m feeling better he wanted to share with me that he’s been feeling really overwhelmed and stressed but didn’t want to put that on me while I had my own issues. He went on to tell me how I’m his only source of happiness etc. Following this conversation, he asked me if I would take out finance for him so that he could get the bike and get the new job and make better money and get into a better position.
To me, this is a straight no. I’ve always been very firm that I wouldn’t take out finance in someone else’s name ever as if they couldn’t pay it would leave me in a very difficult position trying to pay it.
He says that I should know he would never ask if he wasn’t desperate and that as his gf I should be willing to support him. I think this is too much to ask of me. Especially after our talk about him struggling with his mental health and that I’m his only source of happiness in life. I feel like that was almost emotional blackmail to pressure me to say yes to this.