My (22F) boyfriend (28M) doesn’t want me to perform
I do pole dancing to become fitter and I’ve always dreamed of performing. Not at strip clubs but rather at festivals and events.
I do showcase events with my studio in front of our friends and families (of the performers) and my boyfriend says this is okay but he doesn’t want me to perform at festivals or any other event.
He said that guys will be looking at my body and he doesn’t want other men to see me like that.
I am a bit upset as this is always something I’ve wanted to do if given the opportunity and it was also a goal I was working toward.
Here are what netizens think:
- You are allowed to do it anyway. He is also able to break up with you if you do it anyway. Did you try to explain you were working toward this goal and having important it is to you? I can see both sides of the disagreement. I guarantee my husband wouldn’t want me to do something like perform one front of community members or anyone who happens to be present. It’s not his choice to make, but he is allowed to tell you how he feels and that he doesn’t like it. Good luck OP.
- I don’t think this boundary of his is off limits. However, you should never sacrifice your dreams for a partner. You might resent him for missing out on a great opportunity later.
- My gf wouldnt want me to perform pole dancing in front of a crowd either. Not that I would or could or that the crowd ever wanted me to, but if I wanted she’d be uncomfortable with it and thats absolutely alright.
- Although I mostly agree, if the issue is really your partner’s insecurity, that should be looked at and addressed actively by them or this will not be the last challenge.