My boyfriend is currently in his final year of uni and is interning with an MNC. He recently went to KL for a month of work trip with a few male colleagues.
Throughout the trip, he constantly update me about his meals, when he is going on and off work. He did also tell me on three occasions that he is going to go for drinks session with his manager and asked me for permission.
Recently, when he came back to me, I felt insecure and went to see his chats with his colleague. I saw that on one night, he I saw on his handphone that he went to a Siam Diu on one of the days and spent 200SGD there. He did not update me about his whereabouts or plans that night. It was a day where I told him that I was going to sleep and I realised he went there after I slept at around 1am. Did he not want to disturb me when I slept that’s why he didn’t update me? Or because he was trying to hide.
I felt angry, I knew that he did visit such places a few times before he met me, but now with me he still went to such places. He did tell me he wanted to save money on this trip but in the end he spent heavily on such places. I feel insecure. What did he do there?
I also came across his LINE app chat that he contacted a facial service, using a different profile name. I am unable to open the chat, only saw him introducing his name as a pseudo name. I feel insecure. Was it a pure facial or something else?
When he returned, he did showered me with a lot of love but when I think about what he has done, then I felt it was all pretty fake.
I don’t want to end this relationship because I really feel he is the one for me. But Sometimes I just have this urge to just go online and meet new guy friends, meet people. Since he is doing such things while he is away, can’t I too? But I feel like I would be cheating on him this way. Any advice or thoughts about this? Please share with me! I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this.
Here are what netizens think:
- I think you are not ready for a long term relationship.I don’t know the guy so I’ll just talk about you.
1. You spent a lot of time anticipating if he will step out of line.
2. You check his phone.
3. You did not communicate with him when you have questions. Instead, you would rather ask strangers on the internet.
4. You seek revenge without even hearing his explanations.
- Isn’t this kind of relationship tiring? Just have casual relationships for now may be a better choice for you.
- What is with spying on your partner’s phone and expecting a report on their every single move though