So I have been seeing this guy for the last two months and till now, we seem quite compatible with each other. For context, I am 29 and he’s 33.
We are both well-settled in our careers and before becoming exclusive with each other, we discussed all the important bits. Like our goals and aspirations, how do we envision us with our partner, do we want children, etc. etc., and it all seemed to align.
He is someone who never shies away from showing his emotion. He makes me feel valued, loved, and cared.
Now, coming back to the point of this post. We have a really, really fulfilling bedroom life. It’s really good. Probably the best I’ve ever had. And he’s naturally dominant in bed, whereas I am naturally submissive. Which has honestly worked great for both of us.
Since becoming exclusive, almost every time we f, especially every time we are doing it in the missionary position, he will kinda growl in my ear saying, “You’re mine”.
Two week back, when we were doing the deed, he choked me (yes we have discussed it before and have a safe word in place. No he doesn’t choke me so hard that I can’t talk). Anyway, while he was choking me and f-ing me slowly, he whispered in my ear, and I came so hard.
Like most women, I can’t climax from PIV. I need stimulation. This is the first time it has happened. And of course, I told him the same the next morning.
Now, I do find that really hot and flattering, but I am wondering if it is a normal thing for him to say it on an almost regular basis.
Is that a possessive thing? Or controlling? Or is it because I shared that he was the first guy I came with just from PIV?