I, (18F), have a boyfriend (19M). We’ve been dating for around 2 months. Our relationship together has been great so far.
Things go smoothly until I tell him about a guy from an entirely different state.
This guy is his age, in a band, and sometimes a bit of a mess mentally and emotionally wise, especially after a breakup he experienced 3.5 months back. I’ve been there, strictly as a friend, to support him and help him through times. Around a month after breaking up, this guy consistently flirted with me (only at night, which you know how that goes) and said things like appreciating my kindness, my patience, etc. To clarify, yes, this is before my boyfriend and I dated, however, he did know I liked my boyfriend at the time.
My responses were always dry.
I tell my boyfriend about these incidents. Complete mistake because every few days or so, if he even sees a single text on my phone from this different state guy, he’ll be upset for the entire day until I finally get him to tell me what’s wrong. It even gets bad if I briefly mention him. I think he wants me to stop talking to him but I mainly follow him to watch the progress of his band and send each other memes/videos. That’s all we ever do anyways when we text.
My boyfriend thinks the guy stopped flirting because he wants to get close to me, allowing himself to get “chance” from me even though that’s clearly not his intention. Should I just block him for the sake of a happy relationship?
Here are what netizens think:
- Doesn’t sound like your boyfriend has ordered you around or anything… What on Earth is the point of telling your partner about how a guy flirted with you about a month before you started dating though? It’s no surprise he’s wary of your friendship.
- this is huge red flag. If after 2 months he’s insinuating you having to cut ties with your long distant friend, and you do, then imagine after 6 months what he’ll expect for the ones much closer to you. Once all your guy friends are out of the picture he’ll move on to eliminating the girls because “they’re bad influences”. That’s usually how it happens anyway. Don’t let it.
- You’ve only been dating for 60 days and he wants to tell you who your friends should be? Not a good sign.
- your partner is trying to control your friendship with someone because of their own jealousy. This is not a good sign after only two months. If this is what they’re like now, be aware of attempts later on to stop you speaking with, meeting or hanging out with other male friends.