We’ve been together for 6 months and my boyfriend is great in every other way but the same problem keeps popping up in our relationship…. Tinder.
I’ve found out he was on Tinder multiple times and afterwards, he apologizes and will delete the app from his phone but for some reason, after a couple of days he ends up redownloading the app again. He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me so this behaviour is very confusing.
Part of me thinks he just wants external validation that he’s wanted by other women besides me while another part wonders if he has a cheating fetish or something. I don’t know what to do in this situation anymore and I can’t understand why he can’t stop himself.
Any insight on his behaviour or advice would be welcome. We love each other and want to be together so I’m trying to figure out why he keeps doing this?
This has been going on for 6 months.
Here are what netizens think:
- Talk is cheap. Your boyfriend’s words and actions are inconsistent (red flag #1). Your boyfriend apologies when he gets caught (#2): It’s clear he’s not actually remorseful, he just feels bad about getting caught. Your boyfriend repeatedly downloads Tinder despite promising not to (#3).
- Three strikes, he’s out! His actions are disrespectful and his words are just meant to stop you from breaking up with him. You deserve way better, dump this dude and take yourself on a nice date.
- 6 months? Babe he doesn’t like you. When it comes to a fundamental problem in relationships, you speak about it once. If it doesn’t change, leave. Because then you’re just nagging him. Leave him now while you have nothing to lose.
- He is active on tinder. Gets caught. He says sorry. You stick around. He downloads tinder again. Gets caught again. Says he’s sorry again. You stick around again. He downloads tinder again. Gets caught again. Says he’s sorry again. You stick around again. Do you see the pattern there? Where’s the consequence for him? He’s doing it because you’re accepting it.