I (20F) am not enjoying sleeping with my bf (34M) as his D is too small
Our bedroom life isnt bad, he is good in every other regard, its just the size, length and girth. I know it probably sounds like a awful thing to say but its leaving me unsatisfied.
We cant do certain positions, it doesnt hit the right spot for me and to be honest I just wish it was a bit bigger.
When we started dating I told him it didnt bother me and that it still felt good, because at the time I didn’t think it would bother me, but 9 months in it is.
I could never say anything to him and I wouldnt even say anything to my closest friends.
Like I said, I couldn’t bring myself to say anything to him, when we first got together he was so shy and insecure about it, I built his confidence up and he has no insecurities about it anymore.
How could I now turn around and say actually im not satisfied? We have used toys, but I personally don’t enjoy toys anywhere near as much as the real thing.
Do I say something or not? I feel so conflicted because even if I do say something, it’s not his fault and he cant change it so I feel it will just cause more of a problem.
Netizens’ comments
- Seems like you’re just not compatible with him. Some people are just not compatible bc of their preferences or ideals or body parts. It’s not anyone’s fault and sometimes you just can’t do anything about it. If you tried everything and it didn’t work, better rip the bandage off now rather than later when you are stuck mortgage and 3 kids.
- Well, what’s the best outcome of telling him this? Like you said, he can’t change anything about it so wouldn’t this only hurt his feelings without actually changing anything?
If you think of another solution that might work to improve, there’s possibly a way of introducing it without giving his confidence a blow. And if there isn’t another solution and this is enough reason for you to end the relationship, there are also ways of doing this without hurting his feelings/confidence.
In short, I just think telling him this is going to do a lot of damage to someone who was already insecure about it so I would find another way, even if that means you gonna have to lie to him a little. - Let me make this plain for you. You’re 20 and cannot commit a lifetime to non penetration the way you want it. I feel for the guy, but it’s not your issue to take on. You need to end it immediately.